9 Perkara Yang Sepatutnya Ibubapa Ajar Anak

• Often, the most challenging part of parenting is learning to choose the right words when speaking to your children

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  • Everything a parent does yields a strong psychological effect on the kids, and it is vital to remember that the way you choose to speak to them will act as a building block towards their personality. 
    
    As parents, there are times when unpleasant circumstances drive us to say things that we don't really mean. However, we need to remember to keep our emotions under control and only say constructive things that are meant to teach kids the lessons they need to learn.
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• Here are some phrases that need to be shelved once and for all, with suggested alternatives on how to respond to the kids instead:

• 1. Instead of saying "Wait until Mum / Dad finds out about this!"...

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  • This does two things. First, it creates anxiety and fear in the child, especially of the person who you are going to tell about whatever happened. Second, it shows you're dodging the responsibility to deal with the issue at hand by passing it to someone else.
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  • Try “Do you want to tell Mum / Dad, or should I explain it to him / her?”
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  • Choose whether your spouse really needs to know about the issue, and if yes, let the child decide who will tell them. Let your children take ownership of their mistakes and their actions, but do it respectfully.
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• 2. Instead of saying "You need to start watching what you eat!"

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  • When you talk to your children about weight, focus on health and behaviour rather than numbers or appearance, says Rebecca Puhl, Ph.D., Deputy Director of the Rudd Center for Food Policy and Obesity at Yale University. "While obesity certainly can carry health risks, people truly do come in different sizes, and some heavy people may be fit, just as some thin people may not be fit." In other words, some of us are naturally rounder or heavier than others, and that's okay - a concept that we must actively pass along to our kids if we want them to have healthy attitudes about food and their body.
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• Try "I know you like ice cream, but eating too much is not good for you."

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  • Parents can deny certain junk food requests, like ice cream and candy, by offering a healthier alternative. This way, your kid still gets a treat, but it's a better option.
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